Erotic body painting is a fun and easy way to spice up your foreplay. You don't have to have the skills of Picasso or Michelangelo to create an orgasm worthy masterpiece. Sex is meant to be fun, so keep it lighthearted and enjoy the new sensations. Before you get started with your painting, take a few minutes (seconds if you are impatient) to prepare. First, ensure that neither you nor your partner have any allergies to the paint you will be using. A trip to the emergency room is a quick way to ruin a sexy encounter. Next, realize that painting can be messy. Using old sheets or putting down plastic (trash bags work well) can help contain drips and spills. Make sure there will be no interruptions - having to explain to the kids why they can't join in on the art project could be an awkward conversation. Finally, I suggest starting with clean canvases (so shower up).

   

Pick Your Provisions Choosing your materials to paint with leaves you with endless possibilities. You can always use a paintbrush (thin tips are great)... you can also use your fingers, feathers, and sponges. The variety of paint choices include flavored, water colors, food, and glow in the dark. Here are some ideas to get your creative juices flowing:

• syrups (chocolate is a favorite)
• jams & jellies
• strawberries
• blueberries
• watercolor kits
• water paints (can be found in the toy section in most stores)
• body paint pens
• specialized body paints

 

Games to Play

Treasure Map - Draw a map on your body for your lover to follow. Include stops along the way with directions (lick, suck, nibble).

Truth, Dare Or Chocolate  - This sexy board game combines chocolate, saucy dares, and artistic skills.

Paint Your Masterpiece - Whether your artistic talent is professional quality or your stick people are crooked, paint a picture on your lover's body. It can be elaborate or simple doodles... the sensations you will create as you paint will have them squirming and begging for more.

Dress to Impress - Paint a thong and bra on her naked body... or get more creative by adding a corset and thigh high stockings. Paint a sexy pair of underwear on him (he can have a g-string too). For added excitement, use flavored paint and lick their new "clothes" off of them when you are finished.

Blindfolded Guess - When you blindfold your lover, all of their other senses are heightened (including their sense of touch). So go ahead and slip a blindfold on them. Then paint words or messages on their body and let them guess what you are writing. Do you remember when someone would trace a word on your arm as a child and you would guess what it was? This is the sexy adult version.

Bath Play - Run a bath for two and bring along the water paints. There are even special bath paints made for kids that will work perfect for you creative painting on each other.

Glowing Surprise - Paint a message on yourself with glow in the dark paint for your lover to find when the lights go out. Leave an X marks the spot or a silly message like "do me now". Your gesture is sure to get a laugh and some action.  

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Temperature play is a fun way to experiment with different erotic sensations. Has your lover ever kissed you after taking a sip of their cold drink? That icy kiss is a small taste of what temperature play can be. This type of play is often associated with BDSM, but can be modified to satisfy vanilla tastes too. Temperature play can include heat and cold play. Glass toys are designed to hold temperature, so they are wonderful toys for this type of play. Grab a bowl, fill it with warm/hot water, and submerge your glass toy. Allow it to sit for a few minutes and it should be ready to play with. Be sure to check the temperature on the inside of your wrist prior to play. If it is too hot there, then wait a few minutes for it to cool before using it on your more sensitive parts. I suggest avoiding the microwave to heat your toy. Microwaves can cause uneven heating and end up with dangerous hot spots on your toy. You can reverse the process for cold play by filling the bowl with cold water (even adding ice if you choose). If you are feeling extra adventurous, you can even make an ice dildo. Ice cubes rubbed across your partner's body can cause chilling sensations. Drinking an iced drink or sucking on ice then kissing, licking, sucking your partner's body gives delicious cold sensations too. This is especially exciting if combined with oral sex. Using hot candle wax is another fun way to add heat in your play. The distance the candle is held off of the skin allows more control over the heat of the wax. The higher up you hold it, the more time it has to cool before reaching the skin (18 inches is generally considered a safe distance). You then drip or pour the melted wax onto your partner's skin. Cheap white paraffin or votive candles are best for beginners. Beeswax candles melt at a much higher temperature, so the wax is much hotter on the skin. Check the temperature on yourself before applying to your lover. The back and shoulders are good spots to begin with. Be careful not to get the wax in your partner's hair since it can be tricky to get out. Special candles are also made for this type of wax play. Spanking or flogging your partner before adding temperature play is the equivalent of turning up the volume. The increase in blood flow to the surface of the skin causes more sensitivity. I don't suggest switching between ice and heat rapidly for beginners - it can cause serious burns. To make sure that both you and your partner get the most enjoyment out of temperature play, check in with each other often. Like all other forms of sexual play, communication is key to an great experience.  

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It's What's for Dinner"

Eating pussy is an art form. There, I said it! I am sad to report that there are a ton of people who missed the memo on this one. Too many women (myself included) have experienced mediocre oral sex. It takes more than an orgasm to qualify as good.  So what does make it amazing?

A woman's pussy is meant to be adored and worshipped with her lover's mouth. I think where so many go wrong is by viewing oral sex as an appetizer - something to rush through to get to the 'real' sex. Take your time kissing, stroking, and nibbling her all over. Use your whole mouth - lips, tongue, teeth, cheeks... don't forget to use your hands too! Check in with your lover and ask what feels good to her. 

Here are some positions to try out...

Have your partner lie on her back with her head and neck supported by a pillow.  Straddle her ankles and lean forward until your mouth is at her pussy. Having her legs closed during oral sex can result in a slow build-up.  Put one hand above her pubic mound and apply slight pressure.  This position is especially great for women who find direct clitoral stimulation uncomfortable.

 Have your partner lie on her back with her knees drawn up.  Place a pillow under her hips to tilt her pelvis and lay between her legs.  This angle provides strong direct stimulation.

Lie on your back, keep your feet flat on the bed with your knees bent, and position a pillow under your neck and head for support.  Have your partner lay on top of you (with her back touching your stomach), move her feet by your head, and rest her head on your bent knees.  

She straddles you, placing her knees by your ears.  She can hold onto the headboard or wall for support. This position allows her easy access to her nipples or clitoris for self-stimulation while you indulge in pleasuring her with your mouth.





The infamous 69 position allows both partners to give and receive simultaneously. Also try rolling onto your sides in this position.

She bends over and holds her ankles while you kneel behind her. This position gives you full access.  This can be modified by having her lean over the back of a couch or lay over a bed.

Go ahead, eat pussy as your main course tonight and watch your lover melt in your mouth. 

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Keep Your Erection Long Strong

Many men judge themselves by how their dick performs during sex.  Long and strong are the coveted traits.  If you have ever been in the midst of sex and had your's go soft, then you know the psychological mess that creates.  So what can be done to avoid the dreaded limp dick?

If you have struggled with keeping an erection, then let me first say to not be so hard on yourself.  If you are able to get it up when you are aroused, then lets focus on keeping it there.  If you can't get an erection at all, then I suggest speaking with your doctor to rule out medical causes.  

Why do men have trouble keeping it up?

You are bored.  Having the same routine in the bedroom can really put a damper on your libido and performance.  Boredom with your job or life can do the same.  

Condoms can numb you.  Often, condoms can cause you to loose some sensation.  Try switching up the type of condom you use but don't skip them altogether unless you and your partner are exclusively with each other.  

Pills can be the cause.  Painkillers, muscle relaxers, and anti-depressants can all make it hard to get and keep an erection.  If you are taking any of these, then talk honestly with your doctor and work to get a combination that doesn't numb you.

Fear of going soft again.  If you have lost your erection during sex before, then you can loose it again in the future just by stressing that it is going to happen.  This is the biggest reason men continue to suffer from erection problems.

Pressure to perform.  Trying to have a perfect performance to impress your partner can cause a limp erection.  This is especially true when trying to get your partner pregnant or starting a new sexual relationship.

Unhealthy lifestyle.  Lack of sleep, poor eating habits, smoking, and excessive drinking all contribute to poor erections.  Making healthy lifestyle choices boosts your sex drive and erection.

Limp erections can wreak havoc on a man's self-esteem and relationship.  So what can help?   

Try a cock ring.  This ring is worn around the base of the shaft (include balls if you like), working like a push-up bra for your dick.  It helps you achieve longer, stronger erections.

Communicate with your partner.  The more it happens, the more anxiety it causes.  It can also leave his partner feeling unattractive and undesirable.  The key to working through this is good communication with your partner.  Reassure one another.

Spice things up.  Talk about your fantasies, try role playing, have sex in new places, add toys to your sex life... try new things and take the focus off of your erection.

Relax.  Take deep breaths each day to increase your oxygen levels and decrease your stress.  Make sure you are comfortable during sex by avoiding positions that you have to support your weight for long periods.  Don't overeat prior to sex and engage when you aren't too tired.

Work out.  Strengthening your abdominal muscles will help them hold up your erection instead of just your gut.  Being physically fit feels good and boosts your confidence.  The increased blood circulation will also help pick your guy up and keep him hard.  Kegels are another great exercise to add.

Take it slow.  You might think it is a good idea to penetrate as quickly as possible during sex to make sure you are able to get it in.  Over time, this will decrease your confidence and make it harder to maintain an erection.  When you put so much focus on penetration, you are increasing the pressure on yourself.  Enjoy foreplay and try relaxed penetration. 

Arousal gels/creams.  These specialized lotions and potions combine slight numbing agents with products that increase blood circulation to your penis. 

Don't masturbate too often.  Saving your hard on for your partner can help you keep it up longer. 

Try these tips and you will be ready for a long, hard ride from your partner.  Sex is meant to be enjoyed... so take a deep breath and enjoy it!

By:  Jessica Rabbit - If you like this, go read more at Sugar & Spice ~ Leather & Lace!

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8 Suprising Benefits of Sex

We know that sex can be a lot of fun and result in great orgasms, but is there more?  There are some surprising benefits to sex that you may not know about.

Fountain of Youth

When women have sex, their estrogen levels double.  Higher estrogen means shinier, thicker, smoother hair.  Sex helps boost the production of the human growth hormone too, which improves muscle tone and makes you look and feel younger.  Collagen production is also boosted, resulting in more youthful skin.  With all these benefits, sex really does seem like the fountain of youth!

Lower Stress & Stronger Immune System

Having sex can actually lower blood pressure levels, making you less prone to stress.  According to a study at Wilkes University, having regular sex can boost your immunity by resulting in higher levels of the antibody Immunoglobulin A.  Endorphins are released during sex (as well as laughter).  Endorphins help control pain, as well as feelings of stress and frustration.  They produce a "natural high" and are nature's best anti-depressant.  Just think of your daily romp as your happy pill!

Strong PC Muscle = Better Bladder Control & Stronger Orgasms

You do squats to tone your butt, but when is the last time you did your Kegels?  Kegels are an exercise that tones your pelvic floor muscles.  By having strong pelvic floor muscles, you have better bladder control and are able to have stronger orgasms.  Learn more about how to get started by reading Keep It Up, Keep It Tight:  Kegels.  Having orgasms is also a workout for your pelvic floor muscles!

Orgasms With Aunt Flo = Cramp Relief & Shorter Period

Have you been avoiding getting busy during that time of the month?  Well, don't!  Orgasms are a great way to relieve menstrual cramps.  During climax, your uterus contracts, which results in a temporary heavier flow, then a shorter period (since more of the blood and uterus lining have been shed).  Who doesn't want that?

Higher Libido

Are you wanting to boost your libido?  Having sex will make you want more sex.  For women, having sex increases vaginal lubrication, blood flow, and elasticity.  This adds up to sex feeling better and you craving more of it.

Counts As Exercise

Sex is a great form of exercise.  You burn about five calories per minute... so the longer you play, the more you burn.  It gives you double the benefit by increasing your heart rate and using various muscles.  Just like exercise, consistency maximizes the benefits.

May Make Prostate Caner Less Likely

Getting it on may make prostate cancer less likely.  Men who ejaculated frequently (at least 21 times per month) were less likely to get prostrate cancer according to one study published by the Journal of the American Medical Association.  This one doesn't require a partner - masturbation, wet dreams, and intercourse all count.  It isn't clear that sex was the only reason for a reduced risk of prostrate cancer in the study, but it definitely can't hurt.

Improves Sleep

Have you ever noticed that many people nod out after sex?  After orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released, which is responsible for feelings of relaxation and sleepiness.

These health benefits are a great excuse to add more sex into your life... as if you needed one!  So go ahead, get busy and reap the rewards.

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The Lost Art of Kissing

I believe that kissing has become a lost art.

I've noticed over the years (and especially in relationships) how true this really is.  I'm not even sure if most couples realize it, but people just stop kissing.  It goes from passion to little pecks on the lips in passing.  Instead of kissing being exciting, it becomes something done without thought or feeling behind it.

Why is it that the art of kissing has become lost?  Is it that we are too busy... too caught up in the chaos of everyday life?  Maybe it's just seen as part of foreplay... kind of like a prerequisite to get to the real action.  If that is the mindset, then things are going to be hurried and not enjoyed.  Kissing someone is such a personal and intimate experience... maybe we just aren't willing to get that vulnerable.

So, do those 'leave you breathless, knees weak, head spinning kisses' really exist?  Some wonder if it is just another legend.  Let me tell you - it does exist.  Not all kisses have to be this earth shaking though.  There are a lot of different ways to kiss the one you love, like, or just lust.

Here are some of my favorite types of kisses...

The french kiss is considered the most popular romantic kiss.  It is also known as tongue kissing.  In this kind of kiss, one person's tongue touches the other person's tongue.  It is easy to do, but true skill comes with years of practice.

The single-lip kiss is when you sandwich one of your partner's lips between yours and gently suck.

The earlobe kiss is when you take your partner's earlobe between your lips and gently suck and tug.  Circling your tongue around the earlobe can intensify the sensations.

The biting kiss is similar to the French kiss, but involves the teeth too.  It is an open mouth kiss where you gently grab your partner's tongue with your teeth.

The neck kiss is when you lightly kiss down someone's neck.  It is often done after the French kiss and is best enjoyed with minimal saliva.  Using only your lips and not sucking hard help prevent your mouth from producing too much saliva.

The whole body kiss is when you start by lightly kissing your partner's forehead, then their temples, bridge of their nose... give a passionate kiss on the lips.  Trail kisses down their neck, along their collarbone, down their chest... keep going, letting your lips explore their whole body.

The therapeutic kiss can do wonders for your stressed out partner.  To accomplish this, put your lips on the bridge of their nose and deliver a series of soft kisses.  The gently pressure of your lips along with the warmth of your breath will calm your partner, lower their blood pressure, ease headaches, and quiet their mind.

Why not take the time to TRULY kiss someone?  Make it sensual, making love with your mouths.  Give of yourself... its so worth it.

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Lets talk about perspective.  Oral sex is not a chore and shouldn't be viewed as such (unless this is a role play situation of course).  Often, the desire to perform is much more of a turn on important than the skill of the performance itself.  By approaching it with an open mind and enhancing what you love about giving head, it becomes even more fun for everyone involved.  Giving a blow job can be an empowering experience since you are in full control of your partner's pleasure.  Do what feels good to you... if you are trying to do things you don't enjoy then both of you will be able to tell the difference.

So how do you get started?  I like to take my time even getting to the actual blow job.  Start with trailing kisses from his lips, along his jawline, down his neck... keep going down his chest, taking time to lick and nibble his nipples on the way.  While your mouth is working it's way down his body, you can caress his skin with your hands using light strokes.  Kissing down his stomach, stop and linger along his belt line and hip bones.  The whole process is meant to be a slow, sensual journey.  By this time, he will be squirming and anticipating your every move.  When you get to his penis, linger over it with your mouth... without making any physical contact, just allow him to feel the heat of your breath.  Bypassing his goods, kiss and nip your way from his thigh up to his package.  Give the other side some love too!  Now you can get to what he has been waiting for... the actual blow job.  Making eye contact with your lover, begin to stroke his shaft and take him into your mouth.  Eye contact amplifies the already intense sensations for your lover and allows you to relish in his facial expression.  Watching him is a bonus turn on for you too!  You can draw out the initial sensation of your mouth on his penis by swirling your tongue around and kissing down his shaft.  The best blow jobs include not only your mouth, but your hands too!

I could go on and on, but to save you from redundancy, check out this great slideshow for lots more information.  It includes the history of fellatio, spitting vs swallowing, what to eat/drink, anatomy, techniques, and tips & tricks:

Adding an oral sex gel or flavored lube can make things taste yummy and slide more easily as you play.  Sliquid Swirl and Max Head in Sugar Daddy are my personal favorites!  

So go ahead, surprise your man with a mind blowing blow job  today!  What tips or tricks do you have to share?

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